Embrace Abnormal

April 19th, 2015 § 6 comments

“If you are always trying to be normal, you will never know how amazing you can be.” —Maya Angelou

Are you hiding behind normality?

You have a choice to make. Either you can decide to play it safe and follow the crowd. Or, you can choose to embrace what makes you unique and the gifts you have to offer. Normality is a myth and success depends upon your willingness to affirm who you are and what you have to offer.

It takes courage to be true to yourself. As you step out and let the real you shine through, there’s always a risk that others aren’t going to like you. Even those closest to you might not agree with your beliefs or approach. However, no matter what you do there will always be someone that doesn’t care for you. The greater risk is living a life of mediocrity.

A seed of potential exists within every one of us.  Unless we’re willing to take the necessary steps to cultivate our potential it will never blossom. The first step is to become clear about who you are.  Discover your passions, values, and strengths so you understand the impact you want to make.

Once you have this foundation of self-awareness in place you can begin to develop your potential. Actively look for opportunities to use your strengths. Start sharing your desires with close family, friends, and colleagues to see what ideas they might offer for practicing your strengths. The more you experiment the more clarity you will have about what is a best fit for you. Additionally, you will continue to refine your strengths.

Accept that it’s okay not to be normal. The concept of being normal is a myth and only exists when people continue to feed the belief that we have to fit in to some popularly accepted norm. No body is normal. We are each unique with our own set of strengths, challenges, desires, and fears. Recognize that these are the things that make you amazing and embrace who you truly are. Then you can begin the path to happiness, success, and fulfillment.

Here is this week’s Authentic Excellence Action Step:

Identify three strengths you possess and share one of them with someone.

Make it an excellent week!

J. Matthew Becker, M.Ed., PCC



§ 6 Responses to Embrace Abnormal"

  • Mark bisson says:

    I am excelling at not being normal and it does feel amazing to be authentic and using my strengths of being curious about people and creating new awareness by using insightful questions. As you say Matthew with it can come significant challenges. In my case being an excellent coach isn’t enough. Knowing how to market myself so that I can use my strengths to benefit people is key.
    A key elelement of my business model is to use my experience and skills as a a coach on a pro bono basis. I mentor a 2nd year pharmacology degree student and offer free coach supervision.

    • Thanks for your comment Mark and congratulations on following your authentic path. It is so rewarding and fulfilling to get to play to our strengths everyday.

      You’re right about the challenge of marketing a business. I have seen many coaches struggle with this because most of us just want to help people lead fulfilling lives and don’t often think about that aspect. I like your strategies for getting your name out there. Coaching is a relationship business so that is definitely an important element of marketing.

  • Jeff Meyrose says:

    This really hits close to home. As I am at the halfway point of my Master’s program in Human Resource Development, I am trying to figure out what is next. It is reassuring to read the line about taking “the necessary steps to cultivate our potential”. I know right now is not a time for me to make any risky decisions (family, job, classes, financial responsibilities, etc), but I am confident that I am taking some of the necessary steps you referred to to be able to take more of a risk at some point in the near future.
    I have never seen myself as normal, nor do I want to, so mediocrity in my life and career is tough for me. Mediocrity is not fun or exciting, and as much as I want people to like me, I am looking forward to the time when I am able to take a risk professionally to more fully utilize my talents, skills, and potential.
    In my opinion, this entry speaks to so much more than coaching. Imagine a society where more managers and organizations understood this concept and had stronger training, talent development, and human resource programs in place to develop employees’ full potential?!?! Think of the improved morale, productivity, and efficiency in the workplace; which would spill over into employees’ personal lives. I guess it will take one or two mega-organizations to take a risk, adopt this concept, and prove success before it becomes an epidemic.

    • Thanks for your comment Jeff. I’m glad you resonated with the article. It sounds like you are on the right track regarding discovering what the right steps are for you. The most important thing to realize is that it is a process and the level of awareness you are developing doesn’t happen over night.

      You make a great point about the potential impact if more managers and organizations created strong development programs to help others embrace their potential. I do think it is only a matter of time until we see more of that happen. Hopefully it won’t take that long! :)

      Good luck in the remainder of the HRD program and let me know if there is anything I can do to assist you.


  • “It takes courage to be true to yourself.” Deeply nourishing and timely post, J. Matthew. Thank you!

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